Who are you on the inside – your true self? Who are you to the outside world – your family, friends, coworkers, etc.? Are you the same person on the inside as you appear to those on the outside?
You likely have one of three answers to the last question – yes, sometimes or no. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to confidently say yes? Let’s take a look at two life principles to help you come as you are and to accept others as we are.
#1 – Come as you are. Spend time getting to know your true self. Identify your values, your views, your dreams, your passions. Look at the past to find the people, situations, accomplishments that energized you and made you feel on fire (in a good way). Look at today to find your concerns, your roadblocks, your fears, your worries. Don’t focus on problem solving or goals. Focus on letting your true self find himself or herself to the outside world. Most importantly, forget human acceptance. Do this exercise over and over until you find inner happiness and peace with your true self. Keep in mind that your true self changes through the seasons of life. Define, embrace and love the changes.
Kinky Boots is an award-winning Broadway musical passing through Oklahoma on its tour. I fought back tear many times during this musical last Saturday. First, I love going to the theater with my mother and sharing a passion for musical theater with her. Tears – making memories with her! Second, the story is based on a true story where complete strangers meet and face similar life struggles to appreciate their destinies (God’s plan) and their differences. Charlie accepts God’s plan to run his family’s shoe business. Lola, aka Simon, accepts his lifestyle of being a cabaret star and overcomes his fear of rejection by his father. Tears – inspiring me to follow God’s plan and overcome fear of rejection. Last, they took a stand together to live out their passion and dreams. Tears – what a friendship!
#2 – Accept each other to come as we are. We must accept and love each other. “If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing right.” James 2:8 (NIV) We need to encourage others to define, embrace and love their true self. We must show unconditional love to each other and remove the fear of rejection or abandonment. “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37 (NIV) We must embrace and accept each other to come as we are.
During my morning commute this week, I heard Tim Tebow on the KLOVE Morning Show. Tim shared a testimonial about a mission trip to the Philippines. Tim, named the American by the village people, noticed that some boys hid in a hut during the service. Tim’s loving heart pushed him to find out why the boys excluded themselves. Inside the hut, he found three boys and asked the boys why they were hiding in the hut. One of the boys responded that he was told to not let the American see him because his feet were deformed; they were backwards. He embraced the boy and loved him. Tim defined his foundation’s mission in that moment to fight for those who cannot fight for themselves. I cried at the end of his story. Tears – love this little boy no matter what his feet look like. Tears – why are you segregating one of your own? Tears – we need more Tim Tebows in this world!
You must learn to come as you are. We must accept each other to come as they are. If we all change our living philosophy to include these two principles, we will be happier people who live in a loving world. It starts with you and me! Will you join me?